Some people who have a natural shyness can often by mislabelled as having a social phobia, although the symptoms can be very similar, they are separate things. Shyness can affect all ages of people, but it is usually more prominent in younger people.
Shyness usually starts in childhood and adolescence, often when people are finding their feet. This shyness can continue into adulthood. Shyness is linked to self esteem, self confidence and self consciousness, it usually goes as a person gets older, but for some people it can be a big problem for them to deal with. Usually when a young person has been bullied/abused their confidence can be shattered and the young person becomes wary of people and their motives.
While for young people the shyness can be uncomfortable, it doesn’t usually cause too many issues as long as it doesn’t get out of hand and develop into a more serious problem. This is when shyness and social phobias can begin to overlap, if the shyness begins to have a detrimental effect such as interfering with normal day-to-day living.
Meeting people for the first time can cause a natural anxious feeling, but if the nervousness and anxiety levels rise to a point that a person begins to make excuses to not be in certain situations or around people they may need help.
Tips to help overcome basic shyness.
* When having a conversation try to put yourself deep into it, by asking questions and listening carefully to the answers.
* If you’re good at socialising, people will pick up on your confidence and will be more comfortable around you. Try to remember you may not be the only nervous person, the people you’re meeting may be as nervous as you.
* Don’t focus the conversation on yourself by using too many pronouns, conversations that continually start with “I” can get pretty boring for the person listening and focus attention on you
* When looking at events and situations, try not to look at them with utter dread, see it as an opportunity and a good step forward in dealing with the shyness. Try to imagine what things would be like if you overcame your shyness and enjoy meeting new people, how that would make you feel.
The symptoms of shyness.
Being shy can cause the sufferer a wide variety of problems most of which are related to anxiety and stress, the symptoms of shyness can be felt in varying degrees, the more common symptoms of shyness include:
* Excessive sweating
* Sticky hands or sweating hands
* A bright red flush to the cheeks
* A shortness of breath
* A tight feeling in the chest
* A feeling of dread
* Tension headaches
* A feeling of terror
All of these symptoms of course relate to other conditions such as anxiety and panic attacks, therefore if the symptoms are severe enough to cause you to avoid situations then it is advisable to visit your Doctor, as you could need medication to help you deal with the attacks and the symptoms.