What this represents to myself.

As many with BPD, I suffer with black and white thinking. I struggle to see the whole picture, at least not until its too late.

I put people on very unrealistically high pedestals. These people are then never going to reach my expectations and of course when the realisation of this occurs I am left feeling rejected, even though this perceived rejection is completely unfounded, the whole situation has been made up in my head. but I cant see that, not until someone tells me or I realise it afterwards.

So I’ve placed a friend on this pedestal. I think they are the bee’s knees, there is nothing they can do wrong…. oh but then they did, its something small in reality, but to me its the worst thing ever they could have done. Now I hate them, I never want to speak to them again. So I avoid all contact, ignoring them in every way possible. Then some how some way contact is made, and just simple words can change my whole perspective on the person… and now I back to liking them again.

What my reaction would be. I would tell said friend to leave me alone, not to talk to me. I wouldn’t reply to texts, calls, social networks. I would hope that they would just disappear.

So I’ve made plans with a friend but they’ve had to cancel… the thoughts are, they don’t like me any more, bet they cancelled on me because they want to do that plan with someone else better. I hate them, what can I do to make them see I am worthy of doing things with. Its because of me, they know that i’m mental so that’s why they don’t want to be around me. I can get angry too either they like me or they don’t, which is it.

What my reaction would be.. Well I’d kind of attack this person verbally, well via text, saying all the things I was thinking and how I was hurt and why wasn’t I good enough to go out with.

what would the reactions be of the people I’ve been talking about. One has quite simply put it as whatever, get on with your messed up head. I’ve had one friend call me a psychotic little bitch. Others have been more sympathetic, allowing me time to sort things out in my head. Or reacting in a nice manner, explaining things for me.

When I’ve had these thoughts and then gone through the whole black and white thinking and come out the other side if by some miracle I still have a friendship at the end of it. The words that they say to help and support me, result in me crying my eyes out and screaming inside, why cant I be normal, I don’t want my friends to feel they have to be like this around me. Usually crying comes after a lot of things BPD related. For me it is the number one go to reaction, whether I like it or not.

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