Black and White thinking – This is all or nothing thinking, there are no grey areas. If something doesn’t meet the borderlines expectations then they see it as a complete failure.

Negative Conclusions– A borderline will come to a negative conclusion despite there are not being any facts to support the conclusion. This is usually done in two forms:
Mind Reading: This is where a borderline will assume what a person is thinking and that they are thinking negatively about them.
Prediction: A borderline will negatively predict they will fail at something or an event is going to turn out badly. They set themselves up for a bad time rather than going with the flow.

Catastrophizing – This is where a borderline will make everything seem a lot worse and will think and think about an event making it seem worse and worse in their minds. They will make out something is the worst thing ever more to convince themselves that they aren’t able to do something and to withdraw. This usually happens when a borderline is forced to step outside of their comfort zone.

Resisting Positive Experiences – A borderline will resist positive experiences by insisting that they weren’t as good as they actually are, they invalidate themselves by saying they could have done better and that it wasn’t good enough. This then leads to feelings of being inadequate and worthless and a secondary distorted thinking process of generalising everything.

Generalising Everything – This is when a borderline sees one single negative event as a continuous repeating cycle of defeat. A borderline will use words such as always or never when describing negative events. Example – being turned down for a job, a borderline will think they are never going to get a job, they are always going to be turned down.

Negative Filtering of Events – This is when a borderline will take a small negative detail and dwell on it so much that they will forget all the positives that happened at the same time. Example – passing a driving test but having 1 minor. The borderline will focus on that minor and will obsess about it for days, seeming to forget that they passed their driving test and positive factors that that brings for them.

Emotions are Facts – A borderline has unstable emotions and will spend a lot of their time in emotional mind. They tend to believe and think that the emotions they are feeling are true for the situation.

Shoulda Coulda Woulda statements – A borderline can be very pessimistic and with a lot of events they believe that events “shoulda, coulda or woulda” been better. They are never happy with the results of events and will often use these statements to justify their pessimistic view.

Self Blame/Blaming others – A borderline will hold themselves responsible for events that are beyond their control. Example – recently there has been an incident with my niece and I blamed myself for her actions despite not having any control over her actions. On the opposite a borderline may blame others for situations they are responsible for, this is because some borderlines are unable to take responsibility of their actions and want someone else to take the blame, they will try and make someone their scapegoat.

Paranoid Thinking – Borderlines can experience brief psychosis and as a part of this they can experience paranoia. They will believe that people are out to get them, sometimes this paranoid thinking can come as a secondary result from another distorted thinking and the paranoia will feed from that thinking.

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